The most exciting event of your life may be getting married. Love, preparation, change, something new, something borrowed, and something blue are all part of this period. It’s a tale of love that ends happily and marks the beginning of something new.
Marriage marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life, one that will be full of changes and uncertainties. During this time, you may have second thoughts, doubt yourself, and wonder if you made the right choice. You may also have cold feet and want to give up, which occurs when your expectations for marriage don’t align with the reality of what marriage actually entails. However, it’s acceptable and normal to feel this way since you’re in a new place in your life, and it can be frightening.
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However, I would want to share with you some pearls of wisdom that you should never forget as you begin your new season, new beginning, and new life:
Remember your first date, your feelings when you first met, the thoughts that went through your head after your first date, and the things that make you smile, even when your husband isn’t around. These are all important things to cherish.
Avoid being too preoccupied with your career that you neglect your relationship and each other. Building a solid and long-lasting marriage requires work, and you must be willing to put in the necessary effort.
Never forget that marriage takes time and care. It will perish if you ignore it, but if you take care of it, it will develop and become more resilient every day.
Keep your identity and feeling of self intact in your marriage. You don’t have to work together on everything. Having distinct interests and hobbies is healthy.
Always make an effort to make time for one another, spend quality time together, and don’t give excuses for not being able to. A couple enjoying time together
Don’t take each other for granted; instead, find activities you can do together and set up time to accomplish them. Your marriage will be strengthened if you do things together.
Never forget to give a hug. In a relationship, physical contact is vital because it fosters and strengthens love, makes you and your partner feel wanted, relaxes you, makes you feel at ease, and gives you a sense of connection. Sometimes your partner will only need your touch.
Communicate clearly and share your opinions and thoughts with one another. You shouldn’t assume that your spouse is aware of your thoughts and emotions.
Discuss and express your aspirations. This leads to a deeper connection between you, makes it possible for you to better understand and encourage one another, and inspires you to collaborate in order to achieve your goals. Encourage your partner.
Be prepared to make concessions. The success of a relationship greatly depends on your ability to compromise. There are certain things you just have to let go of; you don’t always have to be correct; and other things aren’t worth disputing or fighting over. Consider whether it would be worth ending your relationship.
Be adaptable at all times; relationships evolve. Recognize that things won’t always go as planned or the way you want them to, and that you can’t always have your way.
Spend some time listening to one another. You feel liked and understood when you listen. According to Ralph Nichols, “the need to understand and be understood is the most fundamental of human needs.”
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Listening to others is the best method to comprehend them.
Develop conflict management skills. Some disagreements may never be resolved, but you may learn to manage them by finding solutions that work for everyone, making concessions, letting go, and agreeing to disagree.
Be truthful with one another at all times. Being honest is a fundamental aspect of a healthy and solid relationship and the cornerstone upon which it is constructed.
When you need clarification or don’t understand something, don’t be scared to ask one another for assistance. It doesn’t imply weakness; rather, it indicates that I’m prepared to set my pride and ego aside and humble myself in order to ask my husband for assistance.
Instead of ignoring issues and pretending they never happened or are unimportant, deal with them when they come up. Any issues you ignore become more significant, more powerful, and the “elephant in the room.” Don’t let problems fester by assuming that ignoring them would make them go away.
Avoid going to bed in a rage. Anger at bed leads to conflict, anger at wakefulness, poor sleep, and negative effects on emotional and mental well-being.
Avoid disparaging each other in front of family and friends. Even after you have forgiven your spouse and moved on, your friends and family will still be upset, and it won’t be easy to forgive them. Your connection will be stronger the more individuals you exclude from it.
Always say “I’m sorry” and show unconditional love.
Never forget why you said, “I do.”
