Many people enjoy gifts, but not everyone cares whether you’re saving or planning for the future. Research shows financial habits affect relationship satisfaction. As Dionne Eleanor puts it, “A strong marriage is built on shared values, not shared bank accounts.” Choose a partner who values both the joy of giving and the discipline of saving — someone who wants to build a secure future with you.
2. Marry the person who’ll share your struggles
If someone’s with you only for your wealth, don’t marry them. Pick a partner who’s willing to walk through hard times with you, who will shoulder problems alongside you. Life will bring bumps; you’ll want someone who stands with you when things aren’t perfect, not only when everything is easy.
3. Understand that marriage needs more than love
Love is crucial, but it’s not the whole story. A deep, lasting marriage needs understanding, compatibility, trust, respect, commitment, and mutual support. As Dionne Eleanor says, “Love is the spark, but commitment is the fuel that keeps the marriage burning.” Look for the whole package, not just the feeling.
4. Fights may end, but scars can remain
Conflict happens, but how you handle it matters. A father should tell his son: never shout, never demean, and never become abusive. Arguments may pass, but words and actions can leave lasting wounds. Learn to resolve disagreements with respect so you don’t scar the person you love.
5. Support your partner wholeheartedly
If your partner roots for your passions and goals, return that support with equal energy. Encourage her ambitions and be the steady presence she needs. Mutual encouragement keeps both people growing — and keeps the marriage healthy.
6. Put being a husband first
Make your marriage a priority. Don’t let comfort or complacency eat away at the connection you share. Your partner will be by your side through the long haul; invest time and attention to keep the relationship vibrant.
7. Don’t just complain — act
A father’s practical advice: focus on solutions, not just complaints. Before grumbling about a “nagging” partner, ask yourself whether you’re doing your share around the house or in the relationship. Often the best fix is changing your own behavior.
8. Figure out why your partner has changed
People evolve, and marriage changes over time — sometimes for the better. If you feel your partner is different from the person you married, pause and reflect: have you changed too? Are there things you stopped doing that mattered to them? Trying to understand the reasons behind change helps you adapt and grow together rather than drift apart.
9. Treat your partner like someone worth spoiling
Don’t waste money or time on things that won’t matter in the long run. Instead, spend on the person who shares your life — small gestures and meaningful moments often mean more than big, flashy purchases. Invest in the relationship that will stand by you through thick and thin.
10. Never compare your partner to others
Comparing your spouse to other people erodes respect and gratitude. Someone who tolerates your flaws deserves appreciation, not comparison. New relationships can look perfect at first, but every person has faults. If you compare, be sure you’re holding yourself to the same impossible standard — comparison usually only damages what you have.
(If you find yourself slipping into comparison, pause and seek resources or conversations that remind you why you chose each other.)
11. Let smiles be your true measure of success
If you’re wondering how you’re doing as a husband or a father, look for smiles, laughter, and warmth in your home — not bank balances or possessions. Material wealth can feel empty without happiness. The eyes that light up when they’re with you are a better measure of a life well-lived than any paycheck.
12. Praise in public; correct in private
Praise your partner in front of others; address problems in private. Nobody likes their flaws announced in front of friends or family — it embarrasses and wounds. Public praise builds confidence and cements the bond; private, respectful conversations are where real corrections should happen.
13. Be a loving partner — for your children’s sake too
One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is love for their other parent. Children thrive in a home where parents show affection and respect. Don’t let parenthood erase the romance and care you show your partner; it’s an important model of security and love for your kids.
14. Be a family man
Being a husband isn’t only about providing financially — it’s about presence. As Dionne Eleanor says, “The role of a husband is not just to provide, but to be present.” Look after your spouse, your children, and your extended family. Prioritize their needs and set an example your children can follow.
15. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help
Consider taking a premarital course or seeing a relationship expert. Professionals can offer tools tailored to your situation and help you tackle challenges before they become entrenched. A little guidance can make a big difference in starting marriage on a strong footing.
Commonly asked questions
What should I say to my son on his wedding day?
Tell him how much you love him and how proud you are. Offer heartfelt support and practical advice learned from experience. Let him know you believe in him and that you’ll be there as he builds this new life.
How do I wish my son on his wedding day?
Keep your words warm and sincere. Offer loving encouragement, share a hug that lets him feel your support, and speak from the heart — a few kind, clear words of understanding and love mean more than a long speech.
