You’ve found the person you want to marry or you’re hoping to marry the person you’re currently dating. Or maybe you’re single and just waiting for the ideal person to come along. And you’re thinking:
What on earth does it take to get ready to become a wife?
I want to tell you the truth. Officially, my first marriage lasted 13 years, but the final two years were spent going through a divorce. I promise it won’t be enjoyable, but it’s very necessary. After that, I went through a two-year “intermission” as a single mother before getting married again and enjoying a great marriage that just marked its 36th anniversary.
However, I wish I had given you some tried-and-true advice. For example, I would have to admit that some people require a night before they can talk about an issue if I advised them to “never go to bed angry” (good advice, of course). I would have to admit that some people might choose to take their sexual adventures very, very slowly if I told them to “learn to be sexually adventurous.” I would also have to warn you that some guys would never value this if I suggested that you become a master chef.
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Nevertheless, I have discovered several “truths.”
Those who find married life the easiest grow up in a household where their parents have a great deal of respect for one another, have learned to disagree (and quarrel), and have mastered the skill of making decisions, sometimes in one direction, sometimes in another, and sometimes by reaching a compromise. Additionally, kids are raised in a household where spouses’ love and concern are evident. Most importantly, they are raised in a loving environment where they always feel secure and taken care of.
The state of “falling in love” develops into “loving” one’s spouse in happy marriages.
Respect for one another and one’s perception of a partner’s life—including how they handle happiness, success, disappointment, and loss—are the foundations of this shift. It is true that being “in love” can be caught in romantic moments, but the skill of coexisting successfully depends on the relationship’s mutual respect and self-worth.
Another thing to think about when getting ready to become a wife is that there are several types of marriages, and it’s crucial to select a partner who shares your preferences for the type and standard of marriage. You can’t expect to transform someone by marrying them.
the above-mentioned loving, democratic kind of marriage. Monogamy, open communication, and committed love are the objectives of this partnership.
Children and extended family are typically included in this affection, provided that the latter recognizes that newlyweds require privacy to start mapping out their wedded lives. One or both partners in these marriages see competition as striving to be the best versions of themselves. Power is not an objective. There is excellent and committed labor and effort.
The Business Marriage, in which ambition and power are the overarching main objectives. Monogamy is not a top priority in such a marriage. Therefore, it is imperative that you understand the costs associated with this form of union if you are drawn to someone who wants this kind of marriage but you have very different desires. In a business marriage, one or both partners may have a strong affection for their children, and it is typically expected that the children will continue their parents’ success. Children, meanwhile, are frequently not given priority. Additionally, there are times when one person in a partnership is significantly more involved, caring, and devoted to a son or daughter than to a spouse.
The Hollywood Marriage: In these partnerships, two individuals establish a secret, intimate life that is unrelated to their domestic lives. However, one or both of them may work hard to uphold shared family activities and care at home.
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Oh, how I wish I could give you tried-and-true advice that would guarantee you a successful marriage. Or I wish I could hand you a magic wand that would grant you this success. However, I can state this:
Before deciding to be married, you will be better off if you like and understand who you are, as well as your requirements and desires.
As you prepare to become a bride, keep in mind the type of marriage you witnessed as a child and consider if this is a trait you also desire. Above all, remember that mistakes in life and in love are teaching moments. We learn more about who we are, who we are not, and our best course of action when we make mistakes. I wish you well on your travels!
